Often, the intellectual quotient is emphasized over the emotional quotient. A subject of concern is our constant reactivity to what happens to us rather than responding in a responsible way.
If we are always impulsive and quick in our reactions, we may be lead by emotions rather than a thoughtful process of how to respond.
This is not to say emotions are inherently bad. Emotions are given to us by God. However, they are only signals that reveal something deeper. You must process your emotions in a healthy way.
Questions to ask:
—Why am I feeling this way?
—Why do I feel this way when I am in similar situations? Am I on repeat?
—Why do I react when others say or do something in particular?
Be proactive over reactive. Lead yourself as the Holy Spirit leads you.